Posts Tagged ‘widow’

Just Say Something

September 20, 2013

I have saved an article from Newsweek, written by Betsy Okonski in 1996, titled “Just Say Something”. Betsy and her husband lost a baby in childbirth. What Okonski wrote was exactly how I thought in 1995 and still do to this day. Here is a quote from the article.

“One of the most helpful things you can do for a bereaved person is to acknowledge the loss. Don’t fear causing pain by bringing it up. It was much more upsetting to me when someone acted like nothing happened. Keep it simple. ‘I’m sorry’ may feel inadequate, but the truth is that there is really nothing you can say that will take the pain away. Sincerely said, ‘I’m sorry’ says that you care, and that’s what is truly needed.”

“Grief lasts a long time….if you have not acknowledged the loss yet, regardless of the reason, do it now. It is never too late.”

On Tuesday of next week it will be 18 years since the plane crash that took the lives of my husband and two sons, Joel, Adam, and Seth Herzog. Thank you to everyone who helps keep my memories alive each day. Thank you to everyone who has said, “I’m sorry” or “I have been thinking of you”. 





Looking for something to read?

May 23, 2013

If you are looking for something to read over the three day weekend, feel free to check out my book, Radical Survivor: One Woman’s Path Through Life, Love, and Uncharted Tragedy. I think the book is really good but you don’t have to take my word for it, you can read a review and see what you think! Check it out at the Story Circle Reviews website!  Image

The Story Project

January 24, 2013

Watch me tell my story on The Story Project. Hopefully you will laugh, cry, and laugh again.